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Volume 52 Issue 2 - February 2014

February 13, 2014

BLAMING WOMEN IS BLAMING GOD

Historically men have never accepted guilt or taken responsibility for their follies. Thus, when responsibility and accountability are demanded from men they invariably want to be absolved of their follies or transgressions.

Take for example the story of Adam and Eve. When God asked Adam “Did you eat the fruit I told you not to eat?” Instead of Adam acknowledging his folly he accuses Eve of giving him the fruit. “The woman you put here with me gave me the fruit and I ate it.”
Indirectly or inadvertently Adam is blaming God for his folly!  Why does he have to say the woman you put here gave me the fruit? In other words,

Adam is saying to God that “had you not put this woman here, I would not have eaten the fruit”.
Therefore, in trying to make Eve a scapegoat, Adam employs denial, avoidance and distancing which is men’s response to indictment. Thus, women are subject to pervasive cultural and patriarchal stereotypes in that men use such to run away from shame and their follies.

God asked Adam a very simple question. Did you eat the fruit I told you not to eat? Adam should have just said yes. God did not ask who gave him the fruit. Therefore, one would want to know was Adam deliberately evading the question God asked him?  
It is from this example of Adam that I say historically men have never accepted guilt or taken responsibility for their follies. Thus, when responsibility and accountability are demanded from them, they invariably want to be absolved of their follies or transgressions.

This is where men lose their moral compass to speak truth and acknowledge their follies.It became an intergenerational curse as soon as Adam’s eldest son, Cain, shied away from responsibility of his actions after he murdered his own brother, Abel. When God asked him “Where is your brother Abel?” Cain said he did not know and asked: “Am I supposed to take care of my brother?”

Again we see Cain, as representative of men, employing denial, avoidance and distancing to indictment. Why did Cain feign ignorance of his brother’s whereabouts, let alone responsibility to take care of his kin? This only points to one thing, that until men take responsibility for their loss of morals we will never rid ourselves of the many social ills that we experience today. Who is to blame for prostitution and abortion if I may ask? I know most of you will rush to blame women who engage in such behaviour.

To me, those who blame women are like Adam saying “it is the women you put here” who gave us these social ills if I may call them so. Indirectly, they are saying had you (God) not put this woman here, we would not be experiencing such ills. If I may ask, did God put women here to cause trouble or they are just a scapegoat of men’s follies?

In the next issue, I will explore the topic of patriarchy and how it has kept a limiting trajectory on women’s self-edification to the extent that they remained economically disempowered, entrapped in poverty and at the mercy of men who exploit them. Ends

Editor

Thomas Nkhoma.

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